Everybody gets angry at times. Yet, there is an awful lot of anger going around––it is estimated that one in five Americans has an anger management problem. As for having an outburst, a time when a person melts down in front everyone present and yells, screams, hits out or abuses others, this is destructive anger at its most potent. It hurts you and it hurts others, in physical, emotional and social ways. Having an outburst is nothing but negative––it's something to expect in toddlers, who have very limited in ways to express themselves. But if you're old enough to read this article with no problems, you're too old to be having such outbursts, regardless of your temper, pride or sense of being "in the right". Learning to restrain yourself and to retrain your approach to challenging situations is the mature way forward to a calmer life.